Resisting the temptation — or compulsive inclination — to compare your body to someone else's is 𝑯𝑨𝑹𝑫.

 Most articles that (attempt to) teach you how to stop comparing yourself to other people instruct you to "stop caring what other people think."

As if it's that easy!!!

(This is why I have an entire lesson on people pleasing inside The UniqueDivaProjectCoaching™️)

So before we dig into some tips, let's get one thing out of the way first:

One reason why many of us struggle with comparing ourselves to others is because we are already too focused on our own bodies to begin with.

We don't just "get over" body comparison by telling ourselves to stop.

Because the simple act of telling ourselves to stop is keeping us focused on that very thing!!!

We need to stop thinking about OUR bodies altogether, and that will help us stop comparing our bodies to others. It won't be that easy or straightforward, but this is definitely a leap in the right direction.

Now, how the heck do we do it!?

I won't insult you by telling you to "just stop caring what other people think" and to "get off social media."

Instead, what I will share is that giving up dieting and giving up the scale-watching habit helps take your mind off your body.

Rather than being focused on your physical size and the physical number on the scale, you'll be focused on how you FEEL.

You're turning your attention from the outside to the inside.

And when you train in turning your attention inward, your attention starts to stay more inward. It slowly becomes your new resting position.

Your tool for training is the Mind * Body * Heart Tool

Then, when someone that normally would trigger body envy comes across your path, you'll be a little less inclined to compare yourself to them.

Maybe it happens. But maybe it doesn't.

And if it DOES happen, it will hopefully feel at least a little less shitty because you haven't been sacrificing your mental health to try and get there.

I personally think that resentment is a huge reason why we feel body envy, because we sacrifice SO MUCH when we attempt to diet and lose weight, and when it backfires, it was all for nothing. Then, when these people with goddess-like bodies come along, it pokes at a very tender spot.

But that's another story for another day!

Today, what I want to leave you with is this:

Your brain naturally gravitates towards the things that you focus on.

Instead of telling yourself to stop focusing on bodies, turn your attention to something completely different: your feelings.

You know what to do: STOP 🤚🏻 ASK YOUR SELF WHAT IS TRUE ❤️ LISTEN TO YOUR HEART ❤️ 

Love

Trace

PS. You're beautiful. And even though I can't see you right now, I am certain of this because who else would bother to read things like this and work so hard on themselves?!?! Only a beautiful soul, that's who. And that's you.

And if you CAN'T see your beauty right now, I have sooo much faith that you will inch closer and closer to body acceptance as you train in paying attention to your real, authentic emotions. It's a doozy sometimes, but I know you're more than strong enough to handle it.